So for today’s post I want to talk about interracial dating/relationships. I’ll get straight to the point and say that I am in an interracial relationship; I am Hmong and my boyfriend is Portuguese. My parents are very traditional and do not support interracial relationships. I know this because when I first started talking to my boyfriend my mom told me to stop talking to him because (long story short) I would live a poor and sad life with him due to our differences. I would usually listen to my parents, however my boyfriend is someone very special and important to me so I decided to make it seem like I was not talking to my boyfriend anymore to get my parents off my back. How did I do this, you may wonder? Well, we decided to just call each other through Facebook call, so thank you to Facebook! And it’s been working greatly because my mom doesn’t question me anymore since our calls don’t get logged anymore on the bill.
I am saddened but understand that my parents don’t support my (or anyone’s) interracial relationship. They want to keep the Hmong culture and traditions alive in this great big world we call the United States of America. They fear losing the language and the religion and the traditions to the Western ideals and culture. Nonetheless, I can’t help but love my boyfriend and our differences. Don’t get me wrong, I love my Hmong people, too (to an extent); my ex was Hmong as well. However, I ended the relationship because it just wasn’t working out. I implicitly explain a little of that in my other post: I Made My Decision.
I think it’s important that others know it’s ok to date outside of your own race. There’s nothing wrong with experiencing something new and different because it may turn out to be the best thing in your life. Sometimes people won’t understand, but you do you, because it is your life and your happiness, not anyone else’s.
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